Yesterday I confessed to you that I'm not that good at remembering most conversations, but there are some that just won't be forgotten. Whether because they are stunningly profound, incredibly hurtful, or wildly funny, some conversations stay with us.
The following is something that I remember so vividly from my childhood. I was probably in 6th or 7th grade. I have no idea what prompted my question. but this brief exchange between me and Mama stuck with me.
We were standing in the kitchen, and I turned to Mama and asked, "Why don't you and Daddy ever fight?"
She looked at me quizzically, cocked her head slightly to the side, and asked, "Well, what would we fight about?"
I thought about it for a moment and said, "I dunno. Maybe a new car or something?"
And then she simply replied, "Why would we fight about that? In the end, we still wouldn't have the money for a new car."
What has that meant to me? We've all heard that we should choose our battles wisely, but for some reason Mama's explanation really impacted me. There's absolutely no sense arguing about stuff that doesn't matter or stuff that you can't change anyway.
So before you choose to engage in an argument, re-assess your position. Is this a hill you're willing to die on? Is your point so desperately important that you would be willing to potentially kill a relationship defending it? There are very few of those for me. I pray that God will continue to teach me which hills to defend and which to abandon!
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